This seems like an appropriate follow-up to last month’s blog on boundaries. And saying no.
I’m totally fed up with the ‘busyness badge of honour’ culture which prevails today. We are engrossed with belonging to the Busy Tribe.
This excellent little poem by Brittin Oakman offers an alternative narrative.
“I lied and said I was busy.
I was busy; not not in a way
most people understand.
I was busy taking deeper breaths.
I was busy silencing irrational thoughts.
I was busy calming a racing heart.
I was busy telling myself I am okay.
Sometimes, this is my busy,
and I will not apologise for it.”
The first step is to be honest with oneself about the need to take time out, to process. And then to be boundaried with others and let them know you are looking after Number One. When you are ready, you can be more focussed and effective, because you’ve taken the time to address your challenges and process them fully. Busy in a different way.
I read books and swim. Others meditate, take walks, yoga. And so on. And when there’s something which requires a bit more assistance to process, that’s when you give me a shout.
Here’s a little video about being busy which you might find interesting.