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Akiba

Akiba

As I did in January 2020, I want share with you something I’ve read which tells a great story and I hope resonates with you as much as it does with me. It is the story of Akiba, taken from The Talmud:

 

Why do I feel stressed?

Why do I feel stressed?

I’m very late to the party on this one. During those very hot evenings in early August, I flopped in front of the telly and began watching Series 1 of Line of Duty. We’d had a conversation about it and my eldest brother had said he’d just watched it and was blown away by it. So trusting his recommendation, I got stuck in. I wasn’t disappointed.

 

We set a date!

We set a date!

During lockdown we got engaged, and now we’ve set a date in September 2021. It’s all very exciting. 

But setting the date has sent me into ‘goal mode’. And the thing I’ve really been struggling with is what size I want to be and what I want to wear.

 

Strive for goals or let it all unfold??

Strive for goals or let it all unfold??

My coaching training taught me that the only way to work with clients was to begin by helping them establish well-formed outcomes, or goals. I had a fairly rigid process to follow in order to achieve that, which sometimes meant questioning the client quite fiercely about whether they were signed up to their goal in the first place.

 

Uncertain times

Uncertain times

We are living in uncertain times. At the beginning of lockdown, we understood what was expected of us. There was certainty. As we move further into easedown, it is uncertainty that is taking hold. And for many of us that represents a challenge. 

 

Letting Go

Letting Go

I found this wonderful quote from Joseph Campbell, who worked in the field of myth and religion and gave us the The Hero with A Thousand Faces and the Hero’s Journey. He said “We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned so that we can have the life that is waiting for us.” This seems even more relevant than ever in our Covid-19 world. 

 

Bringing your all

Bringing your all

β€œThe thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself.” Anna Quindlen.

Killing Time

Killing Time

I want to talk to you about killing time. Aimless. No motivation. Avoidance behaviours (in my case, they include comfort eating and shopping). Another way of describing this state is LIMBO.

 

 

The crocodiles on the bank

The crocodiles on the bank

A client of mine has introduced me to a wonderful metaphor…..don’t be distracted by the smaller crocodiles next to the canoe, focus on the great big ones which are basking on the bank. 

Take a different path

Take a different path

A dear friend introduced me to this little poem a couple of years ago. I was reminded of it recently and thought it would make a great New Year’s share. 

Drawing to a close

Drawing to a close

I’m feeling reflective. It’s the time of year with short days and long evenings. A sense of hibernation. And deepening thoughts. I came upon this lovely quote: “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.” David Viscott.

 

I was planning to go on a retreat this autumn for the first time, and that didn’t happen. It made space for something else important to happen in my life, so that was a gift in itself. 

I’m an Imposter!

I’ve decided to ‘out’ myself. I’m an Imposter. I suffer from one of the most common issues that my clients bring to me. So I want to let you all know that I’m one too πŸ™‚

 

The Long Way Home

The Long Way Home

Driving home on a sunny afternoon, sunroof open, and a Spotify playlist called “70’s Roadtrip” blaring through my car speakers. Summer is here and it feels good.

 

Paralysis by Analysis

Paralysis by Analysis

Sometimes it can take me ages to get started with a blog post. I distract myself with looking for nice images and relevant quotes. I over-think it.

Little by little

Little by little

“Enlightenment must come little by little – otherwise it would overwhelm”. Idries Shah

Changing Tack

Changing Tack

β€œYou can’t change the direction of the wind, but you can adjust your sails to always reach your destination.”Jimmy Dean

 

Flatline or Sine Curve?

Flatline or Sine Curve?

This quote popped up in my Five Minute Journal App a few days ago. It struck a chord with me: “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” Anais Nin.

 

Choose to dream

Choose to dream

“Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” Farrah Gray.

OMG I bought a bike….

OMG I bought a bike….

I was having a conversation with a dear friend about poor impulse control (in the context of food). She and I have often talked about the kind of exercise we enjoy, and the subject of cycling came up. Ironically, we immediately visited our local charity bike shop and purchased two very cheap second-hand bikes!

 

I can read your mind….

I can read your mind….

No, I’m not Paul McKenna! 

My Notes from the Universe have a habit of landing just when I need them most. Well, of course they do, that’s The Universe in evidence. Today, my Note read: “Meriel, whatever you think someone else is thinking, they’re probably not. But they are receiving signals about what you think they’re thinking, Meriel… and these signals could change what they’re thinking. So connected, The Universe.”

 

Your lens

Your lens

Before I write a new blog, I always have a look back to see whether I’ve written something similar in the past. Sometimes I write about the same topic in many different ways as I think it’s a message worth repeating. This is one of those times…